Tuesday, February 28, 2006

Are you putting yourself out there?

Why is it that no matter the life problem, the solution offered is, "Well, are you putting yourself out there?"

Are you unemployed or dissatisfied with not being able to find a fulfilling job? Well, are you putting yourself out there?

Are you 'single' (set that terminology aside for further blog dissection)? Well, are you putting yourself out there?

Move to a new city and looking for community (or in the same place and wanting some new stimuli)? Well, are you putting yourself out there?

What does this mean? Putting yourself out there? Are we simply knick-knacks to be put on display? And exactly where and how are we supposed to be displaying ourselves? Or, is this just another cliche, like 'give it time?' (Though, actually, that is usually true advice, just never comforting when in a situation where someone would tell you that).

I love my life right now, but I also am always evolving. Evolution (of the personal sort) breeds a certain expression of discontent. If I at all hint at the slightest discontent, it elicits this idea that I am not putting myself out there. I am far from a socialite by any definition, but I also, like most of my friends, am not a hermit. I am happy, but not complacent (do I want to be?).

My friends in NY who are looking for jobs, faxing resumes as their full-time 'unemployment,' are definitely putting themselves (or paper representations of themselves) out there. They go to networking events, which, I presume, are out there somewhere. Or is it more about sitting around cafes and riding the subways hoping for that moment of synchronicity where you will run into that CEO who is looking for someone with your exact skills.

JLa is putting himself out there: finishing med school, moving to Brazil to celebrate Carnivale and his transition to a new city, to the beginning of life (or lack of) in residency in emergency medicine.

Alizarin is putting herself out there writing and meeting other writers via livejournal despite the taxing schedule of working the night shift.

Grooveva puts herself out there via her artwork (which I think she does for free much too often still), her friendships, her photography, her writing.

I think we need a new solution. Or, as I told P today, as she grilled me about my job satisfaction and my extracurricular activities, there really is nothing in my life that needs to be fixed. I am out there. I am enjoying life. I relish the luxury to procrastinate work by silly writings like this. I am thankful that I still am driven to challenge myself to live more fully (does procrastination fit into this, since it really is a luxury?).

As frivolous as my daily habits may seem to others, I refuse to put- myself -out -there in some attempt to find something I am not so sure I am missing. Instead, I will authentically stay in or go out as I please, and at some point, I may get there.

Monday, February 27, 2006

Why our educational system is failing, part II

Today's LA Times article, Murals Get Brushoff, says more than I ever could about the pathetic culture of sterilized education perpetuated at our school by principals and administrators who are immune to the creativity and passion that enables learning. Maybe she would approve a mural outlining the CA State Standards and how to pass the CASHEE. Maybe she should spend less time visiting schools in New York or going to conferences in Palm Springs. Maybe she should think about what this personalization-rhetoric that she keeps preaching at faculty meetings is really means. Maybe she should have equally high expectations of quality for student work (this is the same person who left me out on my own to defend my failing students who plagiarized papers). Maybe I should stop now before I lose my job. Read the article and see for yourself.

(Afterthought: As I work on my proposal for a yoga class at the school, I wonder, do I really expect her to get the idea of creating harmony and balance within as a means to academic achievement? Or the fact that personal health may actually be more important than test scores?)

Tuesday, February 21, 2006

Why our education system is failing . . .

BTSA -- Beginner Teacher Support and Assessment -- the program meant to create highly qualified teachers for the state of California. Starts your third year of teaching and lasts for two years. Consists of scavenger hunts and other things to inspire teachers to quit and warn them of the selling-your-soul requirement to move into administrative positions in public education.

Today's goal: finish some of my BTSA homework and start planning for classes starting in two weeks.

Start time: 11am
Current time: 1:34pm

Accomplished: Sorted through and filed papers (which I will never read) in order to 'prove' that I received training to make me highly qualified.

The result: Papers are filed, I am braindead and resentful of my employer, I need more coffee before I can think about actually planning for my actual students whom I will see in my actual classroom in two weeks. As I type that I begin to seethe with resentment of the hour and a half I could have been reading and researching to create lessons that might actually get my students to do something. Or at least make me a more informed and better teacher.




The school districts other priority: Another box full of another set of scavenger hunts that will only take away from my valuable time planning my classes (or just being a happy human being which makes a happy teacher which makes a more effective teacher).

I dream of the day when I will burn all of this. Though I am told I can never do that without burning the proof of my qualification to teach. Maybe when I retire. It will be sweet and beautiful. Or maybe I'll just recycle it all. That would be better, right? But not as fun.

I thought this would make me feel better. It doesn't. More time wasted.

Monday, February 20, 2006

DEAR ALIZARIN: The clouds are gone

From clear and cold Seattle, I landed in a cloudy, rainy, cold Los Angeles. Nonetheless, sitting with my winter coat still on outside LAX, waiting for the FlyAway shuttle, I don't think I ever felt so happy to be back in Los Angeles. My life waiting for me to re-enter.

After a rejuvenating sleep in my own bed, I awoke to a still gloomy LA and wit a still renewed love of my home.
Despite the power outage in the middle of the night, I automatically woke up in time to make it to choir practice. Despite the chaos of the service (last minute change of the anthem, false starts for the introit), I had a sense of coming home to my life -- fulfilling and imperfect. My friend and fellow alto, Christine, was the lay speaker for this Sunday and gave a wonderful sermon about the role that practice plays in our lives -- we practice careers, we practice our spirituality, we practice living each moment, never reaching perfection but hopefully progressing into better people. Thus my life in LA, or anywhere I would happen to be, is a practice. An practice requires attention and dedication. Thus, while in LA, I cannot be living an imaginary, more perfect life in NYC or Seattle, I must be here.

Following the service and coffee hour, I head to Trader Joe's to stock up my pathetically empty fridge. Unlike the dangerous Fairway Market of NYC nor requiring a long walk, I cheerfully browsed the shelves of Trader Joe's in peace. In the check out I even chatted with the cashier and bagger about the coffee quality in Seattle, Eugene and LA. Arriving home, I get a call from Grooveva inviting me on a hike. Just want I need. I cook myself a healthy lunch of stir fried mixed greens, carrots, and mushroom burger. Grooveva and I enjoy a bit of coffee before heading up to Griffith Park.

After the rain, we were rewarded with an exceptionally clear day in Los Angeles.
Also unusually cool. As always, we quickly found the fast and steep trail up to the top of the ridge. We took the Bee Rock trail, which included a stretched basically required crawling uphill under some branches. We made it to the road and headed in what I surmised to be the direction to the summit point. It was, just the very long way, looping around the other side of the mountain, over razorback trail, and then up to the lookout.

From there we could see everything from downtown, the Griffith Observatory, to the Pacific Ocean and the Hollywood sign. All, for once, without the usual thick layer of LA smog. I inhaled the cool air, the view, and thanked the universe for bringing me safely home. We descended the mountain in the purple orange of a grand sunset.


What more could I ask for in a 10 minute ride from my home.

Today, Erica called for a hike. We left later, took a slightly varied path up to the pinnacle point for an even more stunning sunset. (I did not bring my camera). We descended via razorback, leaving us walking the windy road down in the dark. I looked down and watched the glowing freeways winding through the city and reveled in the peace of our mountain haven.

We realized taking our leisurely time down as night moved into the city might not be so wise. Our cars, otherwise alone in the parking lot, were surrounded by five cop cars, an old-model sports car, and several boys in jeans and hoodies, handcuffed, each being questioned by an officer. Sadly, these boys reminded me of my students and I wondered if they were really up to something, or just fit the profile. We safely got into our unharmed cars and, as I drove away, the refreshing feeling of the hike lingered through the evening.

Alas, vacation time is ending. I am rejuvenated, but never quite ready get back to my 'real' work, the one that pays my bills, but the time has come. At least I will have yoga, my lovely loft, and Griffith Park to slip off the stress of the day to day.

Saturday, February 18, 2006

DEAR ALIZARIN: Farewell to Seattle

Yesterday Seattle temperatures hit record lows (or came close), yet I still continued my sightseeing tour of Seattle by foot. First, I hiked back down to the Park Place Marekt, feeling a bit like this fish by the time I got down there:



Pike Place Market is definitely one of the most dynamic spots of Seattle, mixing the new city with the old waterfront marketplace, tourists and locals. I did a bit of shopping for myself and for some friends and family, chatting with some of the artisans selling their wares. Some very beautiful crafts, particular the glass pieces. I bought an average cup of coffee with a disappointing pastry. It looked so good in the case! After searching over and over, unsuccessfully, for the glass wine bottle stoppers, my fingers began to feel numb even in my thick, thermal gloves, so I caught a bus back up to Capitol Hill.


I visited with the cat for a bit and then headed to Top Pot for some internet cafe action. Someplace warm and cozy, I thought. However, apparently Seattlites don't really need heat. I was freezing in there, so took my coffee and laptop and headed back to Jenna and Adam's apartment.

After a rest there, I headed up to the "Republic of Fremont," the supposed artists' haven of Seattle. Somewhat ironically, as you approach the neighborhood, the Baptist church seems to give the biggest welcome.


There were a few galleries and slightly more hippie vibe than the rest of the city, but it only consists of about two square blocks. Mostly, it now contains several more upscale restaurants arranged arround a Peets coffee and a Starbucks. Later, Lisa attributes this to rising real estate of the main strip. I did find the Troll and Lenin:



I did visit one really amazing glass gallery. Really beautiful work by resident artist (I can't find his card at the moment -- curtis someone or someone curtis . . . ). So, freezing my ass off, I look for the hip artist cafe listed in my guide book. It is now a very chic french restaurant. I decide to head up to Wallingford for my coffee.

On the bus we pass Sunnyside, which I remember is where my friend Christine used to live. I hop off and find her house. I did remember the house number from the email, but called to confirm. I was right. I hiked up to the main street of 45th Avenue and looked in both direction with equally unappealing prospects. I head right. Nothing except Dick's burgers and a Shell station. I go into the Shell station to use the restroom.

I head up hill, and, by this time, realize I only have 15 minutes until dinner. Yeah! I am a popsicle. Then I hit the downtown area. It is very small. I walk up and down the street, back to Kabul, the Afghan restaurant where I am meeting Lisa. She is there and we enjoy a decent meal. The vegetarian selections were slim and so I opted for a rice dish. The waiter told me that it is served witih all the other dishes so I chose something else and when he bought it out it had no rice. He said he could bring me a side of rice (this would have doubled the price of my original order!). I said I'd really just rather have the rice dish. I then saw why he tried to persuade me to get something else as it was a pile of rice (slightly spiced, but nothing fancy) with a garnish of carrots, nuts and raisins. Not at all the baked dish described. It was tasty and fine, but much over priced and not at all like the delicious and varied food at the Afghan restaurant in NYC I went to with Priya and Anand.

We then headed to a movie, Cache, an excellent psychological mystery which really plays with the ideas of watching and being watched, of video recording and editing, of creating realities, and of trust and truth. I still contemplate scenes of the movie, trying to unravel the truth. For instance, the scene with Pierre and Anne -- was that videotaped? Did the son see it and was that why he was so angry? Then was he in on it with the other son? Excellent movie.

Then to the tea house. Lisa took even longer than I did to decide on her order, which took the pressure off me as I am usually rather undecisive. Especially when ordering food or drinks. Then, at 10pm the town shut down, so she drove me home.

It was fun to hang out and catch up with Lisa, an old friend of a friend.

Today, tired of the cold and of shopping and eating out at mediocre places, I stayed in and watched DVDs. First, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, which I found as moving and lovely and fascinating and heartbreaking and inspiring as the first time I saw it in the theater. I should buy it. I don't really buy movies. Then, The Constant Gardener. Another heartbreaking and inspiring film of a totally different kind.

Though I had a lovely vacation and enjoyed bonding with Buska, my friends' cat, who, by the end of my stay, would actually sit in my lap and purr and sleep (a rescued cat, Buska has some trust issues), I was more excited than ever to return to LA. Maybe absense does make the heart grow fonder?

Thursday, February 16, 2006

DEAR ALIZARIN: Seattle's Revenge

Just minutes after my Seattle critique, it took it's revenge by thwarting my attempt to limit caffeine intake.

Going for a refill on my coffee, I asked for decaf.

"We only have decaf espresso, so it would have to be a decaf americano."

"Never mind, just kill me know. Give me the regular stuff."

Mostly it is just keeping me warm since, though it is only 20-something degrees out, they don't really believe in heat in this city.

Yeah, take that Seattle.

DEAR ALIZARIN: Lychee's Seattle Review

First impression is one of a place that is antiquated and too laid back for its own good. Or, as my friend, Jenna, later confirmed, it could be the cheapness of Alaska airlines. The airport is old and dreary, requiring a long hike to the baggage claim. As best as I can tell, there is only one for all terminals. Delays in unloading are announced. I realize that all flights are unloaded onto one carousel. The bag's of the flight that they just announced would be delayed is now arriving on the carousel, making me wonder if it is my flight that will take 20 minutes due to damage to the baggage door. A few minutes later, I have my bag and am out the door.

The cool air energizes me as I step out and hope to spot Jenna in her flex car. A quick drive up the freeway and we are in a town that looks unexpected like parts of north jersey: residential city streets with brick building bars on the corners. She drops me at the door as she parks the flex car downhill. I enter into a cozy one bedroom apparent expertly decorated via Ikea. The apartment features large windows surrounded by hardwood frames leading to a hardwood ceiling. Adam admits it is perplexing. I refrain from making a bad joke about dancing on ceilings.

We talk until our eyelids grow heavy. I dream strange dreams about Seattle as unfriendly and dangerous. Not a good omen. And far from the reality.

We head out around 11:30 am for breakfast at Glo’s, a Capitol Hill favorite, known for good, cheap food and bad service. It takes us until noon to get our coffee, which is strong and hot.

Jenna takes me on a walking tour of the city as there is only one day to orient me before they leave town for work. I am impressed by the compactness of the city. Though large, we walk everywhere. Granted, if I were working and had appointments, the walking would be problematic, but for the scheduleless, it works. We visit the brand new central library, all glass and sunshine. The reading room on the top floor provides a beautiful view of the city. I find out there are infinite beautiful views of the city, as though designed to provide new and inspiring vistas of concrete, sky, and water as you move from one spot to the next.

We hike back up to their neighborhood and stop for coffee and doughnuts at Top Pot Café. As hyped, both are top notch.

Next, more walking. Through the ‘Harvard Exit’ district where moderate apartments give way to northwest style mansions, some brick and mortar monoliths, others cozy wood framed homes surrounded by humbly lavish gardens. This leads us to Volunteer Park and a stunning view of the sunset. Next, we trudge up to the Organic Market. I, at this point, am having trouble keeping up with these Seattle city hikers, going on my third hour of walking without, I realize a proper meal. I am relieved to pick up a protein drink to tide me over to dinner. Fifteen minutes later, as the temperature drops, we are home and order a very garlicky pizza.

I wake up to another perfectly blue, sunny day and prepare to head out on my own. I start off as I would think any Seattleite starts off, with coffee and doughnut. After a bit of dawdling, I finally hike down to Pike Place Market. It is writhe with specialty shops, cafes and pastries. I find Rachel the brass pig, see the ‘flying fish’ vendors, and stop for lunch at the Three Girls Bakery. I sit down and get flirted with by the redheaded man behind the counter who looks like he just came off a fishing boat. Patrick asks how my day was yesterday. Bewildered at first, I realize he is fishing about Valentine’s Day stories. I forgot it was yesterday. The man next to me jumps in when I say I am from LA. He is surprised I found such a local place for lunch (though it is in the midst of the touristy market) and tells me about how he is thinking of getting into post production. We chat business for a while. I leave feeling welcomed and comfortable in this city.

Strolling through the crafts section of the market, I taste my way from the pepper jelly, through the jams, past the honey and onto the Chukar Cherries stands.

Then I head up to historic Pioneer Square.
This is the original center of Seattle, but now feels like a ghost town with a few galleries and cafes to keep people coming. Mostly, the streets are populated by homeless. I find the Klondike museum in its new location and the enthusiasm of the attendant reminds me that it is definitely not tourist season in Seattle. In fact, he ends up giving me recommendations for places to hike in northwest LA County.


After covering both places in the 4 hours the tour book recommended for one, I head back to Capital Hill
stop by the apartment, eat, and pack up the laptop for some internet café work.


Today was much the same. I visited the Frye Museum (interesting photo exhibit by Candida Hofer) and the Seattle Asian Art Museum (interesting exhibit on Buddhist Art).

And this is Seattle. Sunny, cold, walkable.

And all about espresso more than coffee. I am disappointed. Today, both places only served espresso drinks (or Americano), but not good ‘ole American Drip Coffee. Eugene beats Seattle on that hands down.

People are polite and nice, but not very outgoing.

Seattle lacks an edge. Three days and I feel I’ve seen the city. Except for the outlying islands and the parks. But how often could you do that? And LA has Griffith Park as well as all of the Santa Monica Mountains. And the desert. And Big Bear (not that I’ve been there yet, either). Once that is done, there isn't muct to see. Even people watching is not really an sustainable pasttime.

Seattle is vanilla. A really good, smooth, organic vanilla, but still vanilla.

So, once again, a lovely city, but not enough to compel me to uproot myself again.

Sunday, February 12, 2006

DEAR ALIZARIN: Babbling Psychos

After my lovely hike, I went to make use of the wireless internet and caffeine of the Psychobabble Cafe. Though often a nice, mellow place to procrastinate in a new environment via the internet, it definitely is unpredictable.

A few weeks ago, for instance, there was the afternoon of bad 80's tunes (Prince excepted) not really conducive to the artist cafe atmosphere.

Tonight, it started with the "Lincoln Debate" group. From what I overheard, it started because some girl from Marshall High School, Lisa, wanted to start a science group. So they gathered to debate Lincoln. One other pair who arrived questioned the connection. The rest of the eclectic attendees proceeded to discuss Lincoln and the constitution and debates. I didn't pay much attention, but these were key words.

Next, I was told that I need to move for the upcoming open mic night. Since there were not too many other places to sit, I squished my table for one over near the couches, placing me in the back corner of the "stage" facing out toward the "audience." One performer sitting directly in front of me kept glancing my way, I assume, because of my inappropriate reactions as I attempted to type some stories (ok, blog entries procrastinating writing stories) and chatted online. I could not tell if he was amused or judgmental, but I liked the dancing of his eyes and his rapt attention given to the other performers.

Which were at times quite intolerable. It started up with several attempts at stand-up comedy. First was the preppie college kid who looked really out of place in this rather hippie cafe. It took me a few minutes to figure out he was a comic. Then some older man went up and tried to make some jokes about Nazis. I didn't follow. The next guy was funny and tried to draw me into his act, but I just can't keep up and had no response (not that he waited) to his question about what I was working on. He was followed by someone who actually worked on his act, though I didn't really appreciate his style of humor. Ok, he had a few good moments and I chortled, a bit inappropriately, when he asked "Who's vagina are they smelling?" in a bit about vaginas smelling like tuna. At some point, he mentioned scientology, which set off the man in the wedding dress. And not just a wedding dress, but this man had on a letterman jacket over the dress, a baseball cap, pigtails, jeans under the dress, and sneakers. Everyone seemed to know him since as he raged about how he loved L. Ron Hubbard, several people responded, "George, take it outside."

Finally, a singer.

The worst singer/songwriter ever, that is. This guy sang, purposefully, in this whiny voice complaining about how lazy Americans are. Then he started screaming. I got up to go to the bathroom in preparation for leaving, and had a moment to chat with the 'feature' artist who kept glancing at me as I typed 'on stage.'
"You are like an extra performer there on stage."
"Yeah, the Star typist. "
I explain how I didn't it was open mic night.
"Well now you know. "
"Yes, it is a good thing to know."
"In case you want to watch . . . or avoid it."
Damn, he's a fucking mind reader, too.

Then hopefully he knows I felt a bit badly walking out after his first song (which was connected to the second with a musical interlude and didn't give grooveva, who met me there just as the show was beginning and has an even lower tolerance for such plebian entertainment, and I an appropriate place to get up and leave). But whiny man had my head pounding and jetlagged weighed on my eyelids.

Like a man, a good cafe, apparently, is just hard to find, and when you find one, is often unreliable.

DEAR ALIZARIN: NYC or not NYC?

Back in LA after a week in New York City in which I decided to move back to NYC, then changed my mind.

This morning I changed my mind again. I woke up jetlagged and surly and wanted a good cup of coffee and carbs. The cupboards are bare. Head is pounding, stomach growling. Shoppping? Still involves getting dressed and I am leaving town in 48 hours.

I recall my lovely mornings at Nussbaum and Wu. Breakfast and bagels in NYC. A packed deli. The factory efficiency of the hispanic men working behind the counter. Keep up or you will be a kink in the cogs of the morning routine. Bagels soft and well toasted, cripsy outside, dripping butter. Coffee, sweet and light to perfection. How do they do tha?. In the cafe, conversations are muted, mostly about classes or news. Everyone else is reading newspapers or textbooks. On weekends, fathers with their dauhters talk of weekly school projects.

I head over to Panera Bread Company for an sustaining LA breakfast. The guy at the counter is in slow motion. He needs a cup of coffee badly. Hates his job, obviously. Bagel is barely toasted, only luke warm, then overly dry and thin.. The cream cheese skimpy in the little plastic container. The coffee is hot but weak. I fix it myself but do not have the magic formula of the NYC deli guys. Then, there are the two couples with kids loudly chatting at a nearby table.

"I am terrible at negotiating which is why I want this job . .. I think I can learn it"
"I'll give them something like Slam Dunk, not Shawshank"
"Like, in this job, I get emails asking me, 'Amazon wants this for $4.95. Can we do that?' It's like, ok, we have todo this now. It's not like they want me to do work." (Said with pride and seriousness. And yes, the conversation mostly consisted of a monologue of this one guy)
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"We got a DVD player in the bedroom so that we could play Baby Einstein. I work in TV and I think all kids should watch a lot of tv." (Said as a joke, but don't think it really was).

Changed my mind again. Must move back to NYC.

Did I mention that I just made it out of NYC within an hour of a blizzard? After breakfast, the temperature crept up to the 80's by early afternoon. I actually turned on the AC for a moment. Jetlagged, the heat left me glued to my couch. Grooveva ditched me for a hike, so I proceeded to call my LA friends because my phone was in reach, not a book. Finally reach E.

"I am just heading out for a hike, want to go?"
"Now? But I am glued to my couch."
"Well, I am leaving as soon as I cut up the vegetables."
" Um, ok. I think I could get myself out."

I take 10 minutes to move, 10 minutes to get ready, and 10 minutes to drive to the park. In another 10 minutes I am feeling the rush of the earthy and green coolness as we push up the dusty road.

Changed my mind again. Staying in LA. For now.

Thursday, February 09, 2006

DEAR ALIZARIN: The Met: The People's Museum

The Metropolitan Museum of Art: one of the greatest havens on earth. I love this place with new corners of masterpieces always waiting to be discovered, no matter how many times I visit, as well as the familiar rooms as close to my heart as my childhood room. Now, I sit in the American Wing café looking at the pictures I took for my mother, who will probably not get to visit this museum again. I want her to feel the spaciousness and majesty of this place.

Here is a new statue I bonded with this visit (La Frileuse by Jean-Atione Hudon, 1787):



As I took this picture, a young girl ran up to the statue exclaiming, “Look, she looks just like me when I get out of the shower and wrap the towel around my head like this,” she pantomimes her post shower ritual. I look up into the sadness of the statue and hope she never imitates that in her life.

My writing is interrupted by this:
“I think women are just better at multi-tasking. For instance, I sometimes eat my cereal in the shower.” EW!!!! I really want to turn around and see this woman at the next table who just admitted such a disgusting habit.
“I don’t really consider that multitasking,” responds her male companion.
“Sometimes I’ll even eat an apple while washing my hair,” she presses her point.
“Perhaps you need to reconsider what needs to be done in the morning.”
Uh, yeah!

I finish my coffee and retreat to the Rodin and Impressionist wing.

(On my second visit, I discover the Astor Room, a reconstruction of a Chinese garden and study – a new must see if you visit the museum, along with the Temple of Dandur, the Impressionists, Rodin sculptures, and both sculpture gardens).

DEAR ALIZARIN: A Saturday Rain in Four Parts

Part i: the breakfast

New York greets me with rain. Waking up late on Saturday morning, I realize I forgot to pack my umbrella as I head out for breakfast. Luckily, my hosts have plenty to borrow. Being the weekend, I know my favorite bagel carts are not an option for my first New York breakfast. (In fact, I never did patron the bagel carts on this visit). I pass all the pricey, restaurant style cafes and found my breakfast place for the week: Nussbaum and Wu’s. Though a few brave souls sit outside under the navy blue awning, the combination of bagels, coffee, and indoor seating draws me in. Excitedly, I order my “cinnamon raisin bagel, toasted with butter, large coffee, milk and sugar,” then scoot along the line to the cashier, repeat my order, pay, pick up the goods and snuggle myself at the dark wood circular counter between a student and two girls having breakfast with their father. The coffee is steaming. I take out my book, the perfect companion to my New York breakfast. Ah, just like coming home.

Part ii: the market

What to do, after the perfect breakfast, on a rainy New York City Saturday? Apparently, if you live on the Upper West Side, go to Fairway Market. Refusing to shop at the only place near your apartment, I head there to stock up on a few essentials for my visit: soymilk, coffee, fruit, etc. I had forgotten what a madhouse this place is. I cannot turn without bumping into someone. I imagine it would be something like market day in some old village square, as each merchant tried to serve the hurried and demanding shoppers. In fact, one father sayas to his daughter, preparing to procure something from the butcher counter, “Wait right here. I don’t want you to get hurt.” They live in NYC for god’s sake, and he’s worried she will get hurt in the supermarket! I find the place of calm: the upper floor organic section. I am not sure why no one else is there, since the organic selection is large and affordable. It even has its own check-out, allowing me to avoid the dangerously chaotic Fairway checkout lines downstairs (even I am afraid of injury there).

I emerge into the rain again and head toward the 72nd and Broadway subway station. The bus ride down slick Broadway was so slow I decide the less scenic subway would do. Of course, I stop for a shot of Gray’s Papaya papaya juice, the perfect desert to top off that NYC breakfast and Fairway bustle.

Part iii: the reflections

I take the familiar and unchanged route down the 1, transfer through the Times Square station to the N/R line. My feet move by memory, a routine memorized so many years ago. In the town square of this subterranean world, entertainers hope for a dime. I rush past, back in the rhythm of my city, feeling the confidence of my stride in my black boots, slightly flared soft jeans, black wool coat, and red hat. Early for my meeting, I emerge into the misty winter night of Union Square. The vastness of the space welcomes me back. The landmark Virgin Megastore is now mirrored by Whole Foods, a mark of both the progress and sterilization of New York City. I pass by the megaplex movie theater (everything is mega in Union Square, including the wind and chill factor), striking a memory of nights out with P, almost automatically entering the comic store across the corner. Instead, I continue on to The Strand bookstore. The perfect browsing store. A true book store. Not an LA book store. No glitz, no glamour, no coffee counters, no see or be seen. It is all about the books. Piles and piles of books. The walls bleed books leaving little room for the patrons. Nothing there I could not find elsewhere, except for the experience of this communal worship and reverence for books.

I dread the rest of my walk to dinner through the cold and rainy night, so I leave with enough time to duck into the only café on the midway point of Astor Place: Starbucks. It is one of the largest temples of coffee I have seen, and, as I remember, is packed. Everywhere patrons cuddle with books and laptops. Some are even in groups and chat. As I stand in the queue for the loo, a comic book artist alternates between focused attention to his work and animated conversation with his friend, who is viewing comic art on his ibook. When he looks up to talk, his smooth hands gesticulate and his eyes dance through his glasses as he explains his plans for the panels. I am disappointed when my turn comes.

I order a basic coffee and seek out a seat for one. First, I find a seat by a drafty window. I gather my coat and coffee and score a seat by a mathematician at the window bar. I sit at the window, sipping coffee, writing, on display for all of Astor Place. Or the spectator of the fishbowl of people and traffic, rain and wind. Everything moves, to fro, up down into the whole leading to the subway propelling the movement to other parts of the city. It is the constancy of change embodied in this city. Everything in a constant state of (or potential of) shift. With a small shift of a perspective, of focus of thought, the window on the world in front of me turns into a mirror reflecting myself looking out, or at me, the lights of the café and the Starbucks sign, superimposed on the new buildings across the way, me superimposed upon the people passing, upon the life of this city, the painting of the jazz trumpeter hangs suspended in the middle of the sidewalk as the ghostly pedestrians pass through it. Any shift in my mind could make any one real and the others fade into oblivion, or, with discipline, I can hold all of them together in the one plane of time and space. Likewise, in this materialistic, incorporated city, my anti-materialistic, meditative self emerges stimulated and alive. Rather than overwhelmed, I calmly take in the unity of the city, just as all the image are unified in the transparency and reflection of the glass. I feel the closeness of the man’s thigh next to mine in his purposefully faded jeans and of the woman’s elbow to my right in her Gap sweater. The city boils over with people, uncontainable. Yet every need is here to be fulfilled, for the right price. And for the rest of us?

Thus, I sip my coffee and pretend to create poetry in this lower east side café full of scientists and mathematicians from NYU, studying for tests and examines.


Part iv: the dinner

Dinner at the Mogodor Café, St. Mark’s Place, NYC

Chilled through from the windy two block walk from Starbucks, I pass through the velvet curtains shielding the warmth of the patrons from the cold of winter. I sit at the bar until M and A arrive. M arrives first, complaining of the cold and rain, though dressed entirely inappropriately for such weather in her slip on shoes and tank top with lace. About 20 minutes after our meeting time, I suggest we look to see if A is waiting outside. M insists no one would wait outside in such weather, but I know A better than that. I check. There she is chatting with her beau, J, who was keeping her company until we arrived.

Though it has been about two years since we’ve all been together, though we were all in vastly different places in our lives then, it is as though time has not passed as we fall into conversation: silly, frivolous, intelligent, racy, and laden with friendship that would make the Sex in the City girls envious. A flirts as M customizes her order. After a delicious dinner, M and I head to Rue B. Long and narrow, photos of jazz greats hang on the walls. The piano presses against the wall, the trumpet plays into the pianist’s ear, the bass plucks into his other ear as this jazz trio thumps out syncopated rhythms. We lean against the bar next to the trio and order our $10 glasses of wine. My second for the night. Though I enjoy catching up with M, I am disappointed that the surrounding New York men do not live up to my expectation and strike up a conversation. Too many transplants, too many frat boys. I realize, like in LA, these new New Yorkers stick to their parties like everywhere else.

As we emerge from the bar, I feel my New Yorker status still holds as I give M directions home. An early New York 11pm on a Saturday, I head home. New York, contrary to myth, does sleep.

Wednesday, February 08, 2006

DEAR ALIZARIN: I love NY

Arrived back in the city that will always hold a most special place in my heart: New York City. It makes me giddy. Well, not always, but on this visit it does.

We have been separated for two years and last time I was deep in depression and nearly crushed by the vitality and energy of the city. This time, the city's exuberance is fueling my own newfound love of life. It is true the city reflects and magnifies your mood. For me, at this time, it is a beautiful effect.

On stepped out onto the streets in Mahattan, perhaps not ironically the very intersection where I stepped out of the subway at 11am on September 11th, 2001, after being stuck on a train for 3 hours to be confronted with the sight of an inferno to my south that still gives me chills today. Last night, though, the trees were still lined with white lites, the stores glowed, travels hustled or waited for cabs. But it was the warm and cinnamon spell of roasting peanuts that welcomed me back home. Ahhhh. For those who don't know, on a cold NYC street, it is the most comforting of aromas, rivaled only by the smell of a fireplace in a mountain lodge after a deep snow.

On the subway ride home, I was mesmerized by those unique creatures: New Yorkers. Some were obviously more native than others. To my right was a woman desperately trying to sell some copies of the "Street News." Her face was gaunt and her tangles hair was haphazardly held up in a red scrunchy. "Help me help myself." She yelled with a deep desperation over and over. No one bought a paper. Her nails confirmed her poor health that her thin frame revealed. To my left were the young Columbia students. Transplants from a kinder world, perhaps. Their porcelain skin and finely cut woold coats confirmed a life where poor health and "helping yourself" was never much of an effort. Their voices held a confidence and privilege and comfort. One young girl next to me commented "She doesn't seem to be doing a very good job of helping herself." They then continued to discuss the homeless/beggars around the city that they see on a reuglar basis, with much of the tone as if referring to landmarks. Yet, somehow, here we all were, chooing to live in this city, elbow to butt, as it often is on the train. I glanced down to the woman sitting below where I held on to the rail. Middle aged, working class, she seemed. Tired. Going home? Her hair, though, intrigued. It was brownish peppered with gray with pink highlights. Here in New York. A middle aged white man got on and stood in the aisle in front of three speaking Spanish. He asked them if they could translate a program he had. They were unsuccessful. But this led to a conversation with the woman behind him about a concert he just attended about Lorca. People got on and off at each stop. A young man in neat hip hop attire took a seat, then offered it to a young woman. He insisted, in fact, until she sat down. He caught me watching and gave me a lovely smile. Yes, there are those who pushed and I had to aggressively get myself and my bags off when my stop came. However, it is all the beauty of New York.

And in that spirit of adventure and having to get going, I am posting this without editing.

Thursday, February 02, 2006

DEAR ALIZARIN: How I let down my mother's generation

I often think about how women of my mother's generation would be appalled by my bachelorette ways. Yes, even at my age, I just referred to myself as a bachelorette because I feel it is significant that many of my liviing habits are similiar to the typical bachelor of the movies from the 1950's and 60's. (Except for the constant stream of women floating through their apartments).

For instance, my fridge is usually fairly empty.

And, as I prepare to leave on my week's vacation, I plan on leaving the clean dishes in the dishwasher. Sorry to disappoint you mom, but I think writing this and checking my email takes precedence over emptying my dishwasher.

My mother would probably respond with a sigh and lament about how maybe she would be doing something more important if she hadn't stayed home to care of our family. To her credit, she raised two daughters who are finacially and emotionally (more or less) independent. I don't know what that has to do with conditions of dishes or the fullness of a fridge, but I am thankful for both my mother and my dishwasher full of clean dishes that will be there when I return in a week.

DEAR ALIZARIN: Reasons for loving my complicated life

"But I can't confront the doubts I have
I can't admit that maybe the past was bad

And so, for the sake of momentum,

I'm condemning the future to death

so it can match the past
"
-Aimee Mann, Momentum

" . . . our life crises tell us that we need to break free of beliefs that no longer serve our personal development. Thes points at which we must choose to change or stagnate are our greatest challenges." -- Carolyn Myss, The Anatomy of the Spirit

" But I'm good at being uncomfortable, so
I can't stop changing all the time
. . .
I notice that my opponent is always on the go
. . .
- But he's no good at being uncomfortable, so
He can't stop staying exactly the same

If there was a better way to go then it would find me
I can't help it, the road just rolls out behind me
Be kind to me, or treat me mean
I'll make the most of it, I'm an extraordinary machine"
-- Fiona Apple, Extrarodinary Machine


Wednesday, February 01, 2006

DEAR ALIZARIN: 2,245 Dead. How many more?

Look at me.
I am demonstrating.
Against the war.
"How?" you ask.
Just look at the title of my entry. Apparently, those words written are a demonstration. Do not print and take this with you in the House gallery. You may be arrested, as was Cindy Sheehan. Rep. Young's wife, who wore a shirt emblazoned with that unpatriotic rallying cry "Support Our Troops" was asked to leave on an earlier date, but not arrested. I guess it does pay to sleep with someone on the inside.

Ok, as the well-versed political analyst, Elisabeth from the View and formally from Survivor, pointed out this morning, we need laws because you can't just have people going in an creating chaos in the House saying whatever they want (yes, that is an extremely loose paraphrase; actually, it is more my interpretation of what she said). Fine, no demonstrations in the House. We of course know that all our elected officials vote soley to their conscience without any outside influences.

Seriously, folks, the entire country knows Cindy Sheehan. It is not like she was some nutcase off the street. Just let her be. After all, as the CNN link above points out, wasn't one of Bush's points the support of the troops in Iraq. So why arrest and expel these two women? What is it, exactly, that Bush is trying to hide? The fact that anyone (or a majority, I will optimistically hope) in this country disagrees with the war, with the killing of Americans and Iraqis, with the destruction of an entire country for the financial gain of the wealthiest of the U.S.? Well, it isn't so easy to hide, as the protest in LA last night proved (albeit, mostly to those trying to get into the free concert at Amoeba -- see earlier blog). And such an attitude and hypocrisy will definitely earn you the title of Worst President Ever. Do you think I could put that up in my classroom? (Thanks again to Grooveva for the photo from the 1/31 protest in LA).

DEAR ALIZARIN: Never underestimate the value of a good pair of shoes

Went on another Sierra Club led hike in Griffith Park, the oasis of LA. Of course, I decide to take up this activity during the time of year when it is pitch black at the 7pm start time. After an increase of hiking time with lots of sliding in my Payless sneakers, this week I invested in my new hiking hobby and bought a real pair of hiking shoes. Sold by the little knobby triangles on the bottom, I have not been so happy with a purchase as with these shoes on the hike tonight.

At the pinnacle of the hike we paused in the darkness to gaze down at the glittering LA sprawl. The ebb and flow of the waves of traffic wafted up through the smog to our small opening of quiet and stillness. Ten hikers stood, hidden by the darkness, by the elevation, by our smallness in this city. Protected by this distance, I could feel part of the beauty of the city, a metaphor for that secret place to where all citydwellers retreat when city life becomes overbearing -- the citydweller's magical ability to dwell in both places at once.

Never underestimate the heights and depths where a good pair of shoes may carry you.

DEAR ALIZARIN: All in an LA evening: politics, Hollywood shoots, organic coffee, and the hottest man of January 31st

From Sunset and Vine to home took me 20 minutes. Including the Eva drop-off in WeHo. Nonetheless, it took nearly an hour and a half to get there earlier in the evening.

Only in LA.

Why?

It is a toss up between the one block closed for the Anti-Bush Rally or the free concert at Amoeba Music on the next corner. Attributing our traffic woes to the protest definitely eased the vexation of the insanity of driving in LA (exacerbated by the fact that few in LA know what 4-way stop means). It seemed to mostly be a rally to get volunteers to join the upcoming rally in D.C. For some reason, in a city where everyone is locked in their cars locked in traffic jams, the efficacy of such a rally seemed a bit lackluster, a feeling not lessened by the fact that the number of police on either end of the block rivaled that of the protesters. Also, the line for the free concert probably exceeded it, until, like us, many realized that the show had started and we were all to be left out in the cold (ok, not cold, but lovely coolness of the LA evening). Thus, we went to hang out with the rally, energized by a mixture of idealistic students and aged hippies. I listened to the call for people to take action, but felt a bit dismayed that the only action they could inspire the masses with was putting up posters and flying to D.C. I cheered "Down with Bush" for a bit, but then realized that Bush was not listening, nor was anyone who did not already believe it. It was kind of like trying to hug yourself for comfort: rather embarrassing and not at all satisfying. So, here is my poster, courtesy of Grooveva:



After all that rallying, we needed a cup of organic joe. And, true to LA, a block over, we ran into another police barricade for the antithesis of political protest: a Hollywood shoot. Yea.

Finally, we ended the night listening to the hottest man out in LA on January 31st. Maybe it was the velvety scruffiness of his voice, his charming British accent when not singing, the heartfelt humanity (a synthesis of heartache and humor) or just that he is all around 'snappy' (said with a snappy enthusiasm for full effect and innuendo of sexiness) that made me feel privileged to stand in my two-inch heeled boots for two hours to hear this live (and living) performance. So, Rob Dickinson, while Grooveva is sending a hi-five your way, I would send other numbers your way. (Though from the link from Grooveva's blog, looks like others beat me to it, not at all to my surprise. Don't you think my iguana has the more seductive eyes). However, I still live (maybe by a smidgen) on this side of reality. At least if must result to a groupie-esque fantasy, it is to an indie artist, as Grooveva pointed out. Yeah, I have my standards.

Actually, in this picture, he looks more outraged than the protesters.
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To Rob Dickinson, Grooveva , and all the Bush protesters, thanks for a delightful and unusually eclectic Los Angeles evening.